It was 3 years ago today that I was forced to say goodbye to a good friend. It was my first blogging community. At the helm was a kind (atleast I thought he was) and giving blogger named @tomfoolery. Then on April 1, 2010 I woke up to this horror of a blog post…
“This is the last post for More Than Useless. Blogging and commenting have been a lot of fun and I really do enjoy it, but maintaining the current format of this site along with the frequency is challenging.
Over the past few months, I’ve had a number of awesome opportunities arise online and offline – I’m passionate about them and excited for the work I’m going to be doing. To that, I want to make sure that I can give each of them the focus and effort that they deserve.
I’m likely going to reboot the site sometime in the future though it will be much more casual in nature (so maintain the RSS subscription if you’re actually interested).
You can still follow me rambling on about a variety of tomfoolery via Twitter, contributing more content to the 8BIT Network, working to push out more awesomeness for the Standard Theme, and focusing on a few other things.
This isn’t an April Fool’s joke. I know, the timing sucks. It never was my thing.”
Sometimes the cruelest April fools jokes aren’t jokes at all. 🙁
Yesterday afternoon was rather frustrating. I love what I do as a freelancer but it’s not an easy job and there are some days that make it that much harder. My clients are great people. Many of them are hard-working, honest and great at what they do. It’s my goal to just accent that with the work that I do.
Sometimes, though, I take on a client that becomes a bigger issue than I can afford and I have to cut ties. I recently had one of those ‘clients’ and it didn’t end well. I did everything I could to try to work with them but unfortunately we just couldn’t seem to get on the same page. It came down to a matter of blind expectations that I would work more hours than what we agreed to. I let my judgement slide and continued to work the extra hours hoping the client would see the value I was bringing to the table. In return he increase my pay to match the hours, but as usual, this didn’t happen. He saw the extra work as just part of the gig. Therefore he never saw the value. The big drawback in going through this and trying to make his business a success was that my business suffered.
I learned a long time ago when I was in full-time ministry that you had to set up guards in your life that would prevent someone who couldn’t control their own life to control yours. This same rule applies to my freelance business as well. I can’t let a failing business that is out of control take me down with them. I already stopped investing in businesses but now I need to reconsider my vision for “saving” businesses. I guess I needed to learn this lesson the hard way because I let my guard down and took a huge hit in the process.
After speaking with the client and finding out just how big of a hit my family and I were going to take this month, I had to go for a jog. (It was a short jog since I hadn’t gone for a jog in over a year.)
While on the jog I called my dad who had been in sales most of his career. He understands what it means to ‘take a hit’ because of an unreasonable client.
His advice was simple: “Bean him”
My response was the same as yours probably. “Bean him? What does that mean.” My dad went on to explain that while working in sales he would carry beans in his pocket. When a client would treat him wrong or things just weren’t working out in the relationship, he would reach in his pocket while walking to his car and throw a bean. It was his way of shrugging it off. He said, “You can’t let it bother you or the rest of your business will go down with this one client. You’ve got to get past it and move on.”
Easy for your to say, I thought. So I pleaded my case explaining how much of a sleezeball the client was for misleading me through bonuses and pay increases that never happened. My argument continued with myself while my dad was listening and only took a breath after saying “How can he be such a sleezeball!?” My dad responded with the words that would allow me to move on, “He may be a sleezeball but you found him.” I couldn’t stop laughing.
It’s my responsibility as a freelancer and business owner to choose wisely and keep my guard up.
So I beaned a client yesterday. I’m finished, I learned some valuable lessons and the future is looking good.
One last thing to remember is that although I may have some immediate issues with bills and such, I’ve got a rich and loving heavenly Father who is going to take care of me and my family. 🙂
I received some incredible news almost 3 weeks ago but I was hesitant to say anything. I could hardly believe it was true. I even reached out to one of the organizers of the event and jokingly asked if there was an error in the emails that were sent out. There wasn’t any errors and now I’m listed as a speaker for this years WordCamp in ATL! Woot!
I’ve been going to WordCamp Atlanta every time they have held it since 2010. If you don’t know what that it is, it’s an amazing conference for anyone using WordPress. Everyone from developers, designers, users to beginners find incredible value from this conference. The sessions are incredible but the true gold is in the networking that takes place. As you can see from my sidebar image, meeting Matt and getting my picture taken with the rock star was a huge thrill. Hanging out with the 8BIT team and being mistaken for “one of the guys” was beyond awesome. Continue reading “It Was Just A Goal, Right?”→